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Dear Future Husband, From Your Chronically Ill Wife

5/12/2016

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Dear Future Husband,

You're probably comfortably settled in your bed right now, laying on your back with your hands tucked up behind your head.  And you're probably staring at the ceiling, contemplating work, school, and other various complications of life.  You may or may not be asleep, but either way you're probably thinking or dreaming about your future.  And while your thoughts are dancing through your mind at this very moment, I'm thinking about you. 

I'm fantasizing the first time we meet, our first date, our first kiss, and every memory we'll make thereafter.  I'm questioning if I'll ever find you, or if you're simply a distant dream.  I’m lying in my cozy bed, wrapped in my comforting blankets, clutching a pillow close to me, wondering if you're thinking of me too

But future husband, where ever you are, and whoever you are, if you’re thinking of me, I bet you've never considered marrying a “sick girl.”  You'll never consider it until you meet me.  And when you meet me, I hope you'll be able to look beyond the disease and see the person that is so much more than the illness that her body houses.  Just know, chronic illness or not, I intend on being the best wife you could ever ask for, and I truly hope that your intentions toward me are the same.

You should know that it won't always be easy.  I suppose an undertaking as celestial as marriage is never easy, but I truly believe that marriage is what you make of it, and what you put into it is what you’ll get out of it.  I’ll put my whole heart and soul into our marriage.  And through it all, God will guide us, He will never leave us. But before we dive into matrimony, there are things you'll need to know.  Marriage with a sick person is no easy task, but I promise I'll make it worth your while, and I promise that through it all, I'll always love you.

Here are the things I want you to know:
  1. You will not simply be my husband.  You will be my husband, my help-meet, my caretaker, my best friend, and the love of my life.  The love that I have for you will be eternal, whether I’m sick or not.
  2. There will be days that I'm so sick, I can hardly get out of bed.  On those days, I need your love, and your compassion.  Please don't abandon me when I need you the most.
  3. There will be days that I will need help doing simple tasks simply because my body aches with too much pain to accomplish things by myself.  I'll need help doing simple tasks such as washing my hair, getting out of bed, and walking.  I'll need your help.  And as you help me, you will learn a lot.  You’ll learn a lot about yourself, a lot about me, a lot about service, and a lot about love.  You will help me, and I will help you.  That’s how I intend for our marriage to work.  We will always help each other, no matter how large the task may seem.
  4. There will be days when I'm in so much pain, I’ll scream in agony.  Those screams will haunt you.  Those screams are something you will never un-hear, but they will strengthen you and help you to become the man that God intends for you to be.
  5. There will be days that you want to give up and the discouragement will be overwhelming.  Never give up.  I need your strength.  I will be strong for you.  I will always keep fighting for you.  Please do the same for me.
  6. There will be days when you feel like God has forgotten us.  I promise you, He has not.  He is always there, even if we can't feel it at the moment.  He is there, and He loves us unconditionally.  Never forget that.  Never give up on what you know to be true.  Rely on the Savior harder than you ever have before and He will lighten our burden.  I know He will, without a doubt. Always remember that, and overwhelming peace and joy will enter into our lives even through our darkest times
  7. Always pray.  Pray personally, and pray with me.  Pray for me, and I will pray for you.  When you no longer have the strength to stand, kneel and pray.  When you feel incredibly blessed, kneel and pray.  When you don’t know what to think or feel, kneel and pray.  Never stop praying, whether things are hard or not.  It will strengthen us and bring us closer to God.
  8. Never stop feasting on God's word.  The scriptures hold the answers to our prayers.  Never forget that.  Study on your own.  Study with me.  Study with the intent to be filled with the Spirit every time you read.
  9. Never lose faith.  There will be days when I need your faith, and days where you need mine.  We'll rely on each other.  Suffering is never easy, but if we keep our faith in God, His plan for us, and His love for us, we can overcome anything and life will always have its joy and beauty. 
  10. Life is hard, but with God anything is possible and we will be able to overcome all of our sorrows and afflictions.  We’ll rely on each other, and on God for strength and nothing will ever be too difficult for us to overcome.  
I love you my sweet future husband, wherever you are.  One day God will cross your path with mine, and our beautiful love story will begin.  I can’t wait for that day.  Prepare yourself.  You might be surprised to find that I’m your future wife, but I’ll always be the best I can be for you.  Stay true to who you are and always have righteous desires and our paths will cross very soon.  I will always strive to be the best friend, wife, and mother that I can be, even if I’m sick.  I know that God has greater plans for me than this illness.  I know He has greater plans for us.  Together we can get through anything as long as we trust God in everything.

Your Loving Future Wife​ 
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2 Comments
Austin Gatica
5/21/2016 17:32:11

Well Claire, i find this post rather interesting and very admirable and touching. Seeing as you and i have known eachother for a long time, i was never aware of your sickness and pain. My last relationship i was in, i dated a very sickly girl so finding how this article is not just beautiful, it is also insightful and helps me understand alot more than i did so i thank you.

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Aaron Edwards
4/11/2019 21:09:15

Claire, you're very enlightening! This should be a template of all meaningful relationships, illness or not. You're an ideal woman any man would be fortunate to have. I came accross an article that led me here. Larned something new that was completely off my life radar. To detail your experience with how your life is with your condition was very insightful. You definitely have inner strength and courage. For you to bring attention to this disease is very inspiring and helpful. If I should ever meet my future significant other with this condition, your blogs will have already opened my eyes to this. You're Awesome!

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